Rules To Live By: Say No To Emotional Abuse
I’m introducing a new personal tips column for the visitors of my blog ‘cause I see people have been too disrespectful. In other words, folks need to get tightened up real quick.
Emotional Abuse: Don’t allow it!
When you allow people to talk to you and treat you any kind of way, you allow yourself to be emotionally abused! Its like you’re saying, “I don’t respect or care about myself so I’m going to let you talk to me or treat me like I’m worthless.”
With the technology boom, I’ve noticed a HUGE lack of respect between people so I wanted to speak up on it. These are key areas that people need to be put in check so they don’t emotionally abuse you. Below are rules to live by! Feel free to use them with the people that you know.
1) If I text you and your phone is on, text me back. If you don’t, I’m cutting you off because you obviously don’t care about me or you would have returned my text.
2) If I call you and leave you a message and you don’t call me back in a decent time frame (8 hrs or less,) I’m cutting you off. Why? Because people who value me and my time, call me back quickly. (Emergencies and REAL hecticness are the exceptions to this rule! But you shouldn’t have to wait 72 hrs for a return call!)
3) If we talk in the morning about doing something in the afternoon, and you don’t show up, don’t call me and don’t text me with a good explanation for the no-show, you’re phone number is as good as deleted from my phone. Don’t play games with me.
If you’ve been allowing people to emotionally abuse you, watch your life change when you implement these rules. Stand up for yourself. When people refuse to respect you, it shows that they have no respect for themselves!
I hope you can appreciate these Rules to Live By! The Rules will come on every Sunday!
Tags: emotional abuse, rules
About the Author
Yasmin Shiraz is the President of Still Eye Rise Films, an independent production company which films educational and thought provoking documentaries that chronicle the lives, traumas and experiences of youth. Her first production, Can She Be Saved?, a documentary that examines violence among middle school girls, was an official selection of the 2009 Roxbury Film Festival and recently won a 2009 Indie Award of Merit from IndieFest.
Yasmin Shiraz is the Award winning Author of Retaliation a novel about a community’s response to youth violence. In 2009, it was selected as one of the top Ten Quick Picks for Reluctant Young Adult Readers by the American Library Association. She is the author of The Blueprint for My Girls: How To Build A Life Full of Courage, Determination & Self Love (Simon and Schuster) and five other books. Her best selling “Blueprint” empowerment series is utilized as a self esteem, motivational, and educational tool at middle and high schools, after school programs, non-profit youth centers, as well as Boys and Girls Clubs throughout the country. 
2 Comments for Rules To Live By: Say No To Emotional Abuse
November 30, 2009 at 9:24 am
It does boil down to respect. We must always remember (no matter what it is) to treat people how we want to be treated. This is a very good article…we get so caught up in the BUSYiness of life and we simply forget common courtesy. Thanks so much for your insight and timeliness!!!
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December 4, 2009 at 7:20 am
Wow. Awesome blog and so true.
–@BrotherJesse