Rule To Live By: 1 Great Friend Is Good Enough
You ever feel unpopular when you see a celebrity birthday party and they’re celebrating with 500 of their closest friends? Do you ever ask yourself, “Where are my 500 friends or my 50 friends or my 5 friends?” In American society, we are socialized into thinking that more is better–more money, more stuff, more clothes, more cars, more friends, more, more, more.
We’re never taught to celebrate the 1 good thing you have–the one great car, the one great designer bag, the one really nice apartment, or the one great friend. One is never enough in our society.
For the past 17 months, I feel like I’ve gone through hell and back on so many levels–parental, familial, marital, financial, professional, creative–you name it, I’ve experienced some ridiculous drama in that area over the past year and a half. Whenever one drama ends, drama part 2, part 3, part 45, starts coming through the door. Sometimes I gotta shake my head cause I’m like, “Come on, now. Even I need a break!” But the drama keeps on coming.
This week I was experiencing a period of fog and one of my best friends called me out. He said, “Yas, you never put up with that kind of stuff with anyone before.” I won’t go into all the details of what we discussed but he reminded me of who I was and who I am. I had been in such a fog that I had begun to forget my own essence.
Though it was temporary insanity, I don’t know what I would have done if I didn’t have that 1 friend who could be real with me and tell me what I needed to hear. His conversation was stronger than smelling salts and it woke me up.
After that faithful conversation, I thought about all the friends that I’ve had in my life–the ones that I’ve gained and the ones that I’ve lost–and I was so thankful for this 1 friend who kept it real with me. I was so thankful for this 1 friend who wasn’t intimidated by my brand or my recognition to tell me that I had gone WAY OFF course.
I was so thankful for this 1 friend who didn’t care about my degrees, or books or lectures and told me what I needed to know so that I could help myself.
It would be great to surround yourself with 50 friends like this, but in the off chance that you just have 1, 1 great friend is good enough.