Welcome to this episode of Live Better with Your Host, Yasmin Shiraz. We’re in the fourth week of our series on depression. Like our previous three weeks, we’re taking a short example from the book, Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns. The book Feeling Good deals with helping those who suffer from depression. This series is inspired by an audience member who made a request for a podcast dealing with depression.
So, I’m going to ask you three questions to get us started.
Do you think you should be able to solve your problems easily?
Do you get frenzied when life presents you with a set of obstacles?
Do you throw up your hands when things get really tough?
GETTING FRUSTRATED EASILY?
If you answered yes to the questions above then I think you’ll get something from this podcast. In the book, Feeling Good, Dr. Burns explains a concept called “Do Nothingness.” People who suffer from depression often get caught in the trap of doing nothing. This week I’m focusing on how low frustration tolerance can lead to depression because once you begin to do nothing, you begin to feel bad about yourself.
I’m so guilty of having low frustration tolerance that it isn’t even funny. I used to expect that after I wrote so many books or screenplays or films that my work would get easier. And, if it didn’t get easier then I was doing something wrong. I used to believe that until I read Feeling Good. I used to feel bad when things didn’t get easier or even when they weren’t easy. Dr. Burns calls it “entitlement syndrome” because you “act as if you were entitled to success, love, approval, perfect health, happiness, etc.” I didn’t even realize I was acting like an entitled person, but after I read the book, I realized how acting “entitled” in this manner was not helping me to achieve my goals or feel good about myself.
So, I used to say, “Wow, I’ve written 7 books, I should be as big as John Grisham by now.” And realizing that I wasn’t, I’d feel bad and I’d didn’t want to write. I’d think what’s the point all the work that I’ve done so far isn’t making a difference. My thinking would lead me down a path until I did nothing… Hence, do nothingness.
And what started? My sense of entitlement that my work should be easier. The solution? Life is life. Work is work. You’ll have challenges along the way. The point is to enjoy what you are doing. Don’t get frustrated when something isn’t easy. Don’t get frustrated at the difficulties that you face. Everyone is facing difficulties from time to time. Now, when I get frustrated, I’ll put something aside and work on it the next day. And, if I get frustrated again, I’ll take a break. I’ve learned that taking breaks will allow me to get over my frustration until I can start again. And, I don’t succumb to doing nothing.
I’ve hope you’ve enjoyed this episode of Live Better with Your Host, Yasmin Shiraz. The tips provided in this podcast are not a substitute for medical help. If you are in distress, and are feeling depressed, please go see a medical professional. And, if you are in crisis, the National Suicide Help line is 800.273.TALK.
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